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Lifestyle Budget for Tuesday, September 10, 2019

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^NFL's donation to Chicago charity sparks an online storm — and reveals a case of 'do-gooder syndrome'<

^LIFE-CHARITY-NFL:TB—<When University of Illinois at Chicago professor Dave Stovall heard about the NFL making a donation to a Chicago nonprofit that helps young boys in Englewood, he had his reservations. As a professor of African American studies and criminology, and a community activist, he says, "I have very low expectations" around this kind of corporate charity.

So it hardly seemed surprising when, on the day that the NFL held its opening celebration in Chicago, Stovall and other skeptics were treated to a Twitter storm that exploded around Crushers Club, the boxing program that would be getting $200,000 from the NFL's Inspire Change social justice campaign, a collaboration with the Players Coalition and Jay Z.'s Roc Nation.

1050 by Cindy Dampier. MOVED


^Making beauty and hygiene accessible to all, one haircut at a time<

^LIFE-BEAUTY-HYGIENE-HOMELESS:SD—<Getting up at 3:30 a.m. on a Saturday morning for anything other than heading to an amusement park isn't something most 12-year-olds would be interested in. Gina Mertz counted herself among most 12-year-olds when her dad was leading a ministry group to prepare and hand out food to their local community of people experiencing homelessness.

"I remember not really wanting to do it at first. I mean, Saturday mornings? But once I started going, I was hooked," she recalls. "Watching my dad interact with these people was incredible. He had an ease about him and a beautiful way of connecting."

She continued volunteering in this way with her local church throughout high school and beauty school, as she trained to become a licensed hairstylist and makeup artist. As an adult, she and her family began waking up early on holidays to help distribute food to others, eventually using her desire to help people and her skills in her profession to found her nonprofit, Project Beauty for All, which provides free haircuts and beauty and hygiene products to people at homeless and domestic violence shelters.

1700 by Lisa Deaderick. MOVED


^One of the Twin Cities' finest actors gave up the stage for a new life in medicine<

^LIFE-ACTOR-DOCTOR:MS—<Forget about a 40-year-old virgin — how about a 40-year-old med school student?

Lee Mark Nelson made the most dramatic leap of his life a decade ago, when he was at the top of his game, celebrated for essaying the shy assistant manager in "She Loves Me" at the Guthrie, the dutiful Father in "Ragtime" at Park Square and the big-hearted Daddy Warbucks in "Annie" at the Children's Theatre.

He gave it up, standing ovations and all, to pursue something seemingly unrelated. The Juilliard-trained leading man quit his highly respected stage career to embark on a daunting path to become a physician.

1600 by Rohan Preston. MOVED



^Step inside La Sala Femme, a collaborative art installation in Hartford, and meet some of the black artists who brought it to life<

LIFE-COLLABORATIVE-ART-INSTALLATION:HC — Lights, though neon, glow dim and relaxing. Purples, blues, pinks and greens dance across the walls. The vibe is "chill"; a space filled with acceptance and a come-as-you-are atmosphere.

It's the sixth La Sala Femme, hosted at the Free Center in Hartford on a recent Saturday evening.

In the front room, Ch LaMora has a space set up with a soft pink light, and she prepares to create for a live audience. In the neighboring room, eight rows of chairs — with couches in the front — layer the space. DJ Elle-Ce has her booth set up in the back of the room, beats pumping through the air as artists prepare, perform sound checks and get everything in order.

As community members begin to arrive, mingling takes hold. Kathleen Pompee, of Stamford, sits on a couch with her partner Sheneta Walker, of Bridgeport. Both express their appreciation for the environment and atmosphere.

1900 by Kassi Jackson in Hartford, Conn. MOVED


^These metal 'detectorists' find lost rings — and memories<

^HBY-METAL-DETECTORS:PH—<Decades spent braving the intense heat and danger of a burning building. A lifelong romance. A once-in-forever victory culminating a hard-fought athletic career. For those who wear it, a ring can represent much more than a simple piece of jewelry.

It can embody the story of a lifetime — and it can disappear in an instant.

Enter the Ring Finders. The online directory connects people who've lost rings (or other metal items) with a metal detectorist in their area. They're ubiquitous at this time of year — those solitary figures pacing the beach, waving their metal doodads back and forth above the sand. Most beachgoers simply dismiss them as eccentric hobbyists — until, that is, that desperate moment when a treasured heirloom vanishes into the surf or sand.

1100 by Shaun Brady. MOVED


^This type of diet may help you avoid heart attacks, study says<

^HEALTH-DIET-AVOID-HEART-ATTACKS:AT—<If you want to lower your risk of developing heart disease, you should consider ditching meat, according to a new report.

300 by Najja Parker. MOVED



^Lori Borgman: Sprinkle that doughnut dash with fun<

^FAM-BORGMAN-COLUMN:MCT—<We conducted a Doughnut Dash not long ago. Our goal was to hit as many doughnut shops as possible and find the best doughnuts in town.

It was a worthy Saturday morning endeavor, although the dash part of the Doughnut Dash was a misnomer. We had five little ones in tow.

You don't dash anywhere when passengers require car seats with five-point harnesses, booster seats and stubborn seat belts.

550 by Lori Borgman. MOVED


^Ex-etiquette: Should her ex be welcome in my home?<

^FAM-EXETIQUETTE:MCT—<Q: Should my wife's ex-husband be welcomed in my home as if it were his? I think when he picks up his son he can wait at the door or in his truck. Is there any reason he should be allowed to wait inside until he is ready to leave? His son is 12-years-old so the child can carry his own bag out. Do you think I am overreacting? What's good ex-etiquette?

550 by Jann Blackstone. MOVED

^Ask Mr. Dad: Taming chaos<

^FAM-MRDAD:MCT—<Dear Mr. Dad: Help! I have a 14-year-old high-school freshman whose room looks like the aftermath of a hurricane. But as unpleasant as that is, it's not what I'm writing about. The real issue is that she is completely disorganized and can't keep track of her homework, school assignments, and project due dates. Up through middle school, she was almost always able to get by waiting until the last second to get her work done. But she's already falling behind — and we're still in the first month of school! I worry that if this pattern continues, she'll never be able to get good enough grades to go to college. What can I do to help her get more organized?

600 by Armin Brott. MOVED


^Living with Children: Dad says co-sleeping destroyed his marriage<

^FAM-PARENTS:MCT—<A New York writer named Jonathan Daniel Stern, writing in the August 7, 2019, issue of the e-zine "Fatherly," laments that co-sleeping has destroyed his marriage. As best as I can figure, Stern and his ersatz wife are still married and live under the same roof, but the marriage is gone, kaput, sacrificed to the co-sleeping demon. She sleeps in one bedroom, with the two kids; he sleeps in another bedroom, alone.

650 by John Rosemond. MOVED


^Universe to Mom after 31 years of parenting: I hereby give you permission to rest<

^FAM-HOOK-COLUMN:MCT—<I confided to my acupuncturist the other day that I had been resting.

A lot.

"Sometimes," I whispered, looking over my shoulder to make sure nobody else was listening, "I can lie on the couch and watch 'The Waltons' for hours."

He turned from his notebook to look at me, a middle-aged woman who had just come off a 31-year stint with kids in the house. He knew I had worked my way through college and put my husband through graduate school before forgoing quality sleep to tend my three kids' leg aches, nightmares and millennial wanderings, that I had spent years setting the alarm to assist Santa, the Easter Bunny and the tooth fairy; that I had monitored homework, illnesses, hurt feelings and piano scales during my "off" time; that, for years, when I wasn't doing anything else, I was dutifully signed on to neighborhood parties, aerobics classes, church committees and trying to be the best wife, friend, daughter and sister my husband, friends, mother and three sisters ever had.

"I imagine this is the first time in years you've been able to rest like this," he said.

950 by Debra-Lynn B. Hook. MOVED


^Light Notes: My 'New York minute' memory still collides with 911<

^RELIG-LIGHTNOTES-911MEMORY:PK—<I remember the shadow of the World Trade Center, the welcome relief it brought for the businessman, his coat and tie oppressive in the summer heat. I remember beyond the walls and wrought iron fence of St. Paul's Chapel, quick-footed New Yorkers sidestepping tourists who paused to openly gaze at the towering buildings.

400 by Lucy Luginbill. (Originally moved Monday, Sept. 9.)



^FAM-ERSKINE-COLUMN:LA—< Will not move this week.

by Chris Erskine. MOVED



FAM-PARENTAL-GUIDANCE:ND — Will not move this week.

by Beth Whitehouse.



^Ana Veciana-Suarez: Can friendship apps bring us closer together?<

^FAM-VECIANA-SUAREZ-COLUMN:MCT—<You're doing something mindless — washing dishes, folding laundry, pulling weeds — when you suddenly realize you haven't heard from a friend in a while. Or you remember a cousin's birthday. A brother's new job. Your daughter's anniversary. So you reach out. You call or text.

Simple, right? Nothing but a little convo between two people, an exchange as old as dirt and as common as the sniffles in kindergarten.

Precisely why Silicon Valley has decided friendship is ready for disruption. Or better said, techies want to move us beyond Facebook and LinkedIn, to a world where we manage connections with the same efficiency we try to impose on the workplace.

Prepare for friendship on a spreadsheet.

650 by Ana Veciana-Suarez. MOVED


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